7 rules for more assertiveness
In this way you become assertivewithout denying yourself
We all want to achieve our goals, and do so in the most authentic way. So
always be yourself. Still, I'll give you a few tricks on how you can become
assertive
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in a sometimes harsh working environment.
Tip 1: Be clear and auth
entic!
Nothing is more annoying than people who sometimes talk like that. They
are not tangible and often just irritating. In order to be able to achieve
your goals, you should definitely be one thing: clear. Send your messages
out in such a way that as ma
ny as possible understand them. Just leave
out phrases like "It can be". And always stick to a polite tone that shows
respect for others. Achieving goals is more than achieving goals
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it's a
game too
Tip 2: lay the foundations
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who is what in the
company?
Nobody works in a vacuum, especially not in the office. If you want to be
assertive, you should first get some orientation. Who is what, who is
important and assertive? Once you have recognized this, you will have
the right people at hand, whom yo
u can bring on board if you want to
achieve your goals. Colleagues don't have to be friends, but they do have
to be allies.
Tip 3: Find really good arguments
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for yourself and for others
If you are convinced of a project yourself, you have already achiev
ed a
lot. Now it's time to convince others too. You are only able to assert
yourself if you involve others and also think about their goals. Your task
now is to look for arguments why they benefit your project. Find and
name. It's a bit of work, but import
ant. Because it feels really good when
the others say "Great, we'll do that!".
Tip 4: Use the fine art of diplomacy
Diplomacy may sound a bit high, but it also serves you in everyday life
when it comes to being assertive. So you should never run into the
wall
like the bull, terrorize everyone around you. Rather, you should try to
pick everyone up where they are and to advertise your cause through a
gentle form of conviction . In the end, nobody will be able to resist you.
The diplomat is the secret winner,
she is subtly assertive!
Tip 5: Learn what makes men tick
It is common knowledge that men come from Mars and women from
Venus;). But this is also another chance, because a "Martian" really works
differently than you, he takes other things seriously and i
mportant than
you. You should first accept that, then you can start doing field research. Here's more about what would Jesus do check out the web-page.
How do men behave in a conflict, what makes them assertive? Is it the
pitch, the ignoring of others, is it rhetorical means with which they keep
the word? Watch the b
oys closely, we can learn a lot from that. As
decision
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makers, the masters of creation are often important players, so
get to know them better in their reactions
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and vanities.
Being assertive is important, but there are other things waiting for you
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fr
iends, family members (nice ones!), Art, cinema, theater, great books,
nature, so
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called life, in short. Always make this clear to yourself: the job
is the job
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but there is so much besides !! Don't let conflicts in the office
spoil your life. Every now a
nd then I have a "Today I don't care about my
job" evening. Then it's off to dancing, having fun, going to the cinema,
flirting or touring the surrounding area. So, in short, your life is not at
stake if you are at odds with colleague Meyer. Look at him an
d the
conflict from above, from above, from where the planes are
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do you see
how small everything suddenly is?
